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If you\u2019d asked 2017 Ilka – even as she was realizing in real time that she\u2019d been consorting with the muddiest of pastel people – #liveandlearn – if she could envision firing a client, she\u2019d\u2019ve scoffed at you, determined as she was that none<\/em> of the people attracted to her<\/em> practice would ever behave in a manner shady enough to warrant banishment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2017 Ilka was naive, y\u2019all. An undeniably newborn babe in these professional shamanic woods; a green starseedling who believed good gluten-free biscuits were an impossibility.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Not so remains the case. For one thing, the GF game is blazing these days. For another, though my block fingers retain saintly patience because meditation breeds compassion, they do spring<\/em> to life with ruthless certainty once the go-ahead drops. Vanished is the vacillation of yesteryear – because while I\u2019m aware of and hold with tenderness the knowledge that folks are usually seeking me out for assistance healing energetic dis-ease, I am also aware that if we allow it, people – whether they’re dead or alive – will walk all over us (s\/o Delia Deetz).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Por ejemplo<\/strong>:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The referral client who, unbeknownst to me, was gifted funds for a full session yet played dumb so as to scheme her way into a less expensive appointment and tried to pocket the remainder of the money.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The dude who shamelessly admitted that, although he knew a session would be helpful, wasn\u2019t going to book because he\u2019d just spent a bill on a fitted – and couldn\u2019t comprehend why my follow up suggestion was that he tell the hat his problems.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The stranger who discovered T.I.P via our 5-star rated Yelp page and nonetheless fully requested an \u201canswer for free\u201d so she could see if it was \u201cworth it”. Despite my bemused refusal, she proceeded to blather on about having an affair with a bus stop ghost until I ended the call mid-yap.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The music mogul inexplicably unable to navigate the internet – at all, just because? despite being sent instructions so minutely detailed that EYE was embarrassed whilst typing them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The lady who alternated whisper-questions \/ orgasmic noises during the entirety of a guided journey class, then made this big awkward scene about joining my mailing list immediately afterward … only to unsubscribe from said list that same night.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The good sir who wanted to take me out to lunch in lieu of a proper session. When I clarified that stir-fry is inadequate compensation, he offered to pay me in rap beats, alkaline water, and travelers\u2019 cheques.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The undeniable gem of a woman who – after a nine-month absence from T.I.P during which she\u2019d booked and canceled multiple unpaid appointments while<\/em> regularly attempting to finagle gratis zuzsh via \u201cfriendly\u201d messages – showered upon me (on my day off) a frenzied litany of texts lamenting how the previous three years of romantic emotional manipulation to which she\u2019d partially devoted her life had proved wildly unsuccessful and became irate when I was A) unwilling to drop everything to listen to her cry RIGHT THEN, and B) insistent that she pay for my services.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The friend of a friend who said: \u201cI think what you do is horse shit but you\u2019re one of the most interesting people I\u2019ve ever met and I want to tell you all my problems and hear your opinion on them but I\u2019d never pay you for that. Also, people hate me and assume I voted for [REDACTED] just because I\u2019m rich and blonde and you have NO IDEA what it\u2019s like to be judged only on the basis of how you look.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The ones who attempt to casually \u201ctrick\u201d me into offering guidance, especially at parties. Y\u2019all GOTTA quit that <\/em>shit posthaste before I hex you for real.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The ones who always<\/em> email to ask my availability like I don\u2019t pay for and operate a whole entire website. [Ed. note<\/em>: these people rarely end up booking, which makes it SUPER worth my time.]<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The ones who do visit the website but seemingly refuse to practice reading comprehension.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The ones who, upon learning that I do shamanic work, immediately ask if I can get them psilocybin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The ones who try to physically sneak-siphon my energy via unwanted touch (e.g., hugs, leg rubs, hair fondling, biting<\/em>) as if I don\u2019t feel them pawing at me and as if there’s ZERO possibility they might decide to grab at my personhood on the wrong day and leave with nubs &\/or 5% fewer teeth. Lest we forget your girl was born and raised in Brooklyn, NY and<\/em> hosts within her a steadily simmering cauldron of volcanic rage. Seriously, no me toques sin permiso energ\u00e9tico. It’s consent practice, not rocket science.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The ones who forget I\u2019m a human being with financial and physical requirements (who’s also navigating socioeconomic inequality, generational & current trauma, and modern-day lynchings, to name a few delightful extras) rather than a sparkly android who resides in cosmic stasis until THEY decide they\u2019re in need.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And yet the most amazing bit is that all these people, with all their unconscious hijinks and attempted scammery, have been tremendously useful (along with being terribly annoying) during these baby business years. They\u2019re the reason just about every T.I.P guideline, rule, and regulation exists. They pointed out the places T.I.P required structure and rigor. They helped me teach myself how to construct and maintain boundaries. I had<\/em> to find my “no” – so I could say it to them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

So: here\u2019s to the jokers, the creepers, the flakers; props to the whiners, the yahoos, the advantage takers – I thank you for helping me grow. I wish you all the best. From a great distance. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

And PS? FFS and the love of Merlin, stop calling me \u201cMama\u201d if we don’t rock like that. It\u2019s weird and actually kinda racist. Cool? Cool.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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